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ADHD IN ADULTS

At Brother By Choice, we understand the challenge that comes with managing ADHD in adults. Whether you have been recently diagnosed or have been struggling with un diagnosed ADHD for some time, we are here to help.

I personally went 25 years un medicated and it wasn't until I took my self to see a Psychiatrist after hitting rock bottom and it was time to make a positive change in my life.

To me having ADHD is an absolute blessing, I have so much energy and if I'm passionate about something ill hyper focus and not stop until its done. Then on the flip side it can be the biggest struggle and I get so disappointed in my self for holding my self to such a high standard when things aren't going right.

Sitting down and having yarns with my Psychiatrist was so beneficial in my healing, that I was able to start to become aware of things I was doing that was making my life harder then it had to be.

Together we sat down and discussed different things to self manage my ADHD as well as slowly working out how being medicated would effect me, working FIFO. Being medicated gave me the chance to finally, slow my thoughts down and for once in my life I started to realise what silence started to feel like.  I wasn't having 10 different conversations with my self, getting stuck over thinking and procrastinating all day. I was able to start a task, not get distracted and finish it. Managing my ADHD was the first step into making my life a lot easier at the basic day to day levels. By not truly understanding how to manage my ADHD I never had the appropriate techniques and ways to regulate my emotions. 

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It was such a relief once I was able to understand how much it was effecting my daily life, and understanding how much of a toll it was playing on my happiness.

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Here is a list of common things I use to do on the daily, before I subconsciously became aware:

  • Being unable to sit still, especially in calm or quiet surroundings.

  • Day dreaming or zoning out.

  • Completely forgetting I haven't eaten all day.

  • Interrupting people when having a conversation.

  • Impulsive shopping and over spending.

  • Having the ability to hyperfocus in some settings, and then in other settings not be able to pay attention at all.

  • Difficulty controlling my emotions, getting over whelmed easily, frustrated, road rage.

  • Feeling mentally scattered and exhausted for no reason.

  • Increased feeling of guilt and anxiety after not getting all my jobs done.

  • Miss placing items, I had only just placed down.

  • Forgetting where I left my car keys, or what I was looking for.

  • Starting 10 jobs and never finishing one of them.

  • Leaving 5 minute jobs unfinished for months on end.

  • Little to no sense of Danger.

  • Hour of power, getting the house cleaned as fast as i could.

  • Hyper focused on new tv shows, having to finish the whole series.

  • Having a high level of emotionality.

  • Little to no emotions and not being able to understand others feelings.

  • Poor time management and always being late.

After raising my awareness to common behavioral traits and bad habits I had developed. It was time to hold my self accountable once again and look deep within. I issued my self with some much needed corrective training to re program my sub conscious. I started to journal and write down how I was feeling, I wrote down my intrusive thoughts and logically picked them apart. I would sit in silence and really process, how I was feeling, it was time to start pouring my energy back into my self, rather then trying to seek external dopamine hits. I started going back into nature, going for walks and swims down the beach. Taking my self out for breakfast, lunch and learning to be happy and comfortable in my own company. I was finally doing things that made my inner child happy. ​

I was responsible for my happiness, just relying on prescription medication, was a low vibrational mentality and to elevate in consciousness it would take a lot more then that.

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Here are some things I started adding into my daily life to help manage with my ADHD:

  • Writing lists of my Jobs I needed to get done during the day, and doing them in order on the List.

  • 5 minute rule. If I was able to complete a task, do it immediately rather then paying it off. Small accomplishments add up.

  • Regular Exercise and hydration.

  • Solid morning routine: Wake up, make bed, get dressed, have breakfast, and write daily job list.

  • De cluttering and getting rid of old things I no longer needed.

  • Using Calendar to manage all my appts, work schedule and up coming events, with regular notifications to remind me of things I had on.

  • Creating better routine and giving things a place to live. ie - Place to leave my Keys and wallet.

  • Regular Journaling and spending the time alone to feel and process my emotions.

  • No impulse buying - 2 Day rule on big purchases.

  • Less time inside and more time in nature.

Adhd in adults
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